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If we take on an opposite view, what would you do if you have an affair and your partner found out about it? The first aspect to look at after this happened is to ask yourself; what was it that motivated you to commit such an act? Was it the thrill or excitement? If indeed what you did was just to seek out the thrill and excitement for trying something "new" and now that you regret it, you should cut off all (ALL!) you ties with the person before you can start fixing your current relationship. Don't expect to be able to patch up a relationship while keeping another as life doesn't work that way and money doesn't grow on trees (though I don't deny that money is made out of paper and paper does grow on tree). Unfortunately however, if you started an affair because you thought there is not hope with your current relationship, it is time you should seriously think whether you should let go of your current relationship and pursue your happiness elsewhere.